Ok, Ok…, after you’ve stopped laughing at the photo let’s think about this.
How do we make our relationships count?!?
It’s one of the greatest challenging challenges of our era. Yes, divorce rates have dropped; but that’s only because people aren’t bothering with marriage so much anymore. Or, as one of my friends put it “I done with letting the law dictate my personal relationships.” Long term commitments are predicated on What’s in it for ME?
As a genuine Christian I want to challenge this present mindset in direct opposition. At a reception after the wedding I heard the father of the bride comment “Everyone knows the words don’t mean anything anymore.” Mind you, this was at the reception, immediately following the wedding service and the exchanging of vows.
Seriously?!? I was truly offended.
Let me offer you some of what I’ve learned that makes a relationship count.
1. Psalm 15 admonishes us to Swear to our own hurt and do not change. (v4). That means keeping our commitments, come hell or highwater. For my part, I’ve done that. You?
2. Betray no one. It builds a track record of distrust. Not smart. Let your YES be Yes; and your NO be NO. [Matthew 5:37] Remember the KISS Principle?
3. Immerse yourself in building up other people. It will make a difference in who you become.
4. Love with all the kindness and compassion you have!
5. Always forgive first! Especially when you know you’re right. It’s about the relationship, not the argument.
6. Invest in things that matter. Not so much gifts, though they can be super nice. Rather, experiences that build up others.
7. When our kids were growing up we would always tell them, “If you assume the higher position, there’s only one direction you can go. If you take the lower position, there’s only one direction you can go.” ‘Nough said.
8. So many training courses today encourage us to be a servant of all if we are to rise in this world. Our Lord tells us, simply, to be a servant of all. ‘Nough said again.
Honor God, honor people, make a difference,
Dr. Gary Davis, President
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