weapons of self-destruction December 14, 2009Posted by needinc in emPulse.
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EmPulse for Week of December 14, 2009
weapons of self-destruction
We’ve all met someone who seems to have a built-in self-destruct button. They make consistently bad decisions; some of them life threatening. We worry about these people; we try to help them; and, sometimes, we stay as far away from them as possible. Their personal annihilation often drains the life out of those around them.
Much more delicately, however, each of us fabricate our own weapons of self-destruction. Not intentionally, of course, but we do it nonetheless. Here are a few WSDs I’ve observed in people.
|· Over-commitment||· Short-changing on sleep||· Peopled-out|
|· No time alone, down-time||· Work is life: life is work||· No time for even one friend|
|· Afraid to adapt, change, grow||· Constant headaches||· Loss of life’s excitement|
There are more WSDs, to be sure. But these are the most obvious to others; if we’re honest, we’ve all sensed some of these signs in ourselves at one time or another. The question is what we DO about them. Here’s my next list for defusing some of these devices and lessening the extent of damage they can do in our lives.
1. Take stock of your life. Not just a cursory band-aid review, but a full-fledged assessment of who you are and what you are doing. You may want a sounding-board person to help you establish an honest perspective on yourself.
2. GO TO BED! Sorry, you DO need 8 hours. Talk with your doctor about a sleep-aid if necessary.
3. For a time, limit the people in your life to a balance of feeders and drainers. i.e.- you need to be fed as you give out.
4. Get away. Go for a walk (daily, alone), go to a hotel (no TV), get out in the woods…, something.
5. Create a life that is separate from work. Anything. Take up knitting! Snow-football. Watch-making. Anything.
6. You have to have at least one friend with whom you are completely safe. Find ‘em, feed ‘em, laugh with them.
7. Start by brushing your teeth differently, then shift from boxers to briefs & vice-versa. Try doing something completely unusual for you. Hug people you’ve never hugged before. Smile at your enemies; send them gifts. Anything!
8. Headaches are our body’s cues that we are pushing too much. [Some people can push more than others.] Go to a medical doctor and get some perspective…, and some proper medication.
9. If nothing in life excites you any longer you are in the grasp of some form of depression. You need to talk to a professional counselor, psychologist, etc. more than anything the loss of a zest for life will destroy you. DO NOT let this WSD run its course.
Remember, it is never too late to regain your equilibrium in life. Our Creator did not make us to fall apart; that’s our doing. Let Him help rebuild your life into something remarkable, full of life, and maybe a little outrageous!
Have a nice week.